Emotional Intelligence

               Emotional intelligence is necessary for success

There is one thing in all of our mind that to get success we should be intelligent. But there is a factor which helps us in getting success and that is emotional intelligence. In our society we think that intelligence is to do with thinking, analyzing, remembering, comparing, applying, doing examinations and getting high marks. We think that these are the qualities that bring good jobs, good income and good schools for the children. But research is nor confirming that this is not true. Schools develop only thinking skills as their feelings and emotions are mainly ignored.

 Intelligence is the ability to grab, understand and use knowledge. Intelligent quotient or IQ tests compare performance with same age group who take the same test. But it does not measure all kind of intelligence like social intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the single factor to predict the success and other important factors like technical skills, physical fitness, specific knowledge and mental abilities. EQ (emotional quotient) is the most important factor of professional and personal success in life. It is recognized that only 20% success of a person depends on IQ and remaining 80% depends on EQ. Emotional intelligence is more or less related to social intelligence. It includes interpersonal intelligence (appreciation, understand other people, what motivates them, handling relationships) and intrapersonal intelligence (self-awareness).

According to Daniel Goleman: Emotional intelligence is the ability to know, manage one’s emotions and recognize them in others and to handle one’s relationships.

 

 

Emotional intelligence refers to the emotional needs, drives and true values of the person. EQ tells what the persons do and will do. It determines one’s success in relating to people and success in any given job.

There are five domains of emotional intelligence:

• Self-awareness: to observe oneself and observe their impact on others.
• Managing emotions: handling feelings, realizing what behind a feeling, finding ways to handle all type of fears, anger, and sadness.   
• Motivation oneself: analyze emotional energy in the service of a goal, openness to new ideas, ability to find solutions, sound decision and sense of responsibility.
• Empathy: understand other’s feeling and appreciating the differences in how people feel about things.
• Handling relationships: managing emotions in others: social capability and social skills.

Thus a person is emotionally intelligent if he is able to:

•     Identify and realize emotions in others
•     Feel his own feelings and emotions
•     Using his emotions, problem- solving, decision making etc
•     Have proper understanding of nature and outcomes of his emotions
•     Proper control and regulation over the expressions. Use of emotion with self and others.